a. Whether or not they are worth investing any more of your time, energy, intimacy etc., in;
and
b. Whether or not your current relationship has the potential to be a successful marriage,
First: Answer all the questions below with only your current girl/boyfriend (one person) in mind.
Second: Ascribe a number between one and ten to each question;10 being, over the top completely yes, and 1 being not at all.
Once you have answered all the questions, go back and prioritize the importance of each question to YOU. Try and identify which issues are not that relevant to you and which one’s are “deal breakers”.
Note: Each question is intended to be answered individually. Resist the temptation to combine issues even within a question. Doing so will not deliver an accurate assessment of your potential Mr./Ms. “Right.”
Dedicate at least 20-minutes of quiet, uninterrupted time in which to complete this questionnaire.
Before you begin, take several slow deep breaths and allow your mind to focus exclusively on your current boy/girlfriend/love interest.
1) How much do they make you feel loved?
2) To what degree do they appreciate and articulate your virtues?
3) To what degree are they aware of your faults and liabilities, and are they willing to over look them?
4) To what degree do they inspire, encourage and motivate you to live in a way that G-d wants you to?
5) How often do you discuss with them, subjects such as self-improvement, personal/character development or spiritual growth?
6) To what degree do you identify with their values, interests and use of their free time?
7) How confident are you, that, should circumstances demand it, they would be willing and prepared to assume complete responsibility for your care and wellbeing?
To what degree do you admire them and which of their qualities do you admire most?
9) How much of their character/personality do you not respect, and what aspects in them do you respect the least.
10) To what extent does it bother them when things bother you?
11) How motivated are they to try and help you deal with those things in your life that bother you?
12) How motivated are you to give them pleasure?
13) To what degree does making them happier increase your own happiness?
14) To what degree do they alleviate any feelings of loneliness in you?
15) How confident are you that they will always be there with and for you, whenever you truly need them?
16) To what degree are you physically attracted to them?
17) To what degree to they make you feel attractive?
18) If applicable, when you are intimate with them, how concerned are they with pleasuring you?
19) How happy of a person are they?
20) To what degree are they able to lift your spirits when you are feeling down?
21) How often have you noticed them getting angry, bearing a grudge or harboring resentment against whoever they believe has wronged them?
22) To what degree do they speak negatively or focus on the negative aspects about other people or events?
23) How patient are they when you are wrong about something, make mistakes, or are running late for an appointment?
24) How prepared are they to exhibit leadership in the areas of your life that are connected to them?
25) How confident are you that they will make good, rational decisions that are in the best interest of you and your children?
26) Do/Will the people whom you value and respect value and respect them?
After you have completed this, prioritize the questions in order of importance to you.
Good luck! And may the Almighty give you piercing clarity for what is in your best interest!